I have always dreamed of raising my two girls to be best friends. I never thought it would be something that needed to be considered or worked towards. But I guess it might actually take some effort.
My sister and I are three and a half years a part. There were times when we were competitive and times when we didn’t want to share. But to this day, she is still one of my best friends. I talk to her nearly every day. Our kids love hanging out. We can talk about our successes and our challenges being a mom, a wife, a daughter or a friend. We can talk about our goals and our dreams. Sometimes we don’t agree. And sometimes we’ll try and convince the other to think the same way. Other times we are totally on the same page.
My sister and I are very different. Jade and Ivy are very different too.
Jade is beautiful and blonde. She is stubborn and sweet. She likes being the one in charge yet she will become a follower if she thinks it will improve her situation. Jade loves knowing that her family members love her and think she’s wonderful. She doesn’t insert herself in a group, she has to be invited and reassured. She doesn’t have patience when it comes to people making mistakes. And she is really hard on herself when she makes mistakes or thinks she did. She loves taking care of her little sister and giving hugs. But if she’s denied, her heart breaks and her spirit falls.
Ivy is beautiful and brunette. She is stubborn and sweet. She goes with the flow and if she’s in charge, she embraces it. If she isn’t, she accepts warmly whomever is, unless they don’t follow the rules or want to do something she knows is wrong. She is always smiling and laughing. She doesn’t care what others think about her, she believes she is beautiful and funny and wonderful, no matter what someone says about her. She loves being adored and will milk it for all that she can. Sometimes she’ll even go out of her way to make sure it continues. If someone isn’t nice to her she continues to call them a friend but moves on to the next best friend.
Tonight was a night that they put their differences a side and played and played and played. They threw a “party” and dressed up in cute costumes. They had a friend over (that is Ivy’s age) and they were in their best friend groove. Since school started, they have both been in that best friend groove more often than not. It makes me happy that they are different. But happier that they are so different but can get a long so well.
I just remind them every once in a while that they should try to be best friends forever because they are sisters forever. And they only have each other. I also always point out how happy it makes me when they are getting a long and having fun together.
Are you close with your siblings? Are you doing anything in particular to encourage your kids to be best friends?
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This weekend we went up to Peach Days in Brigham City. I love going up for the parade and the car show. This year, both of Scott’s siblings came up so we had a fun BBQ and the kids got to play. We enjoyed the whole day. One of our family traditions is climbing the rock wall at the carnival. Jade and I are the ones that do it, but Ivy decided that she wants to do it next year. We shall see. 🙂
